In the Christian tradition we have now entered the season of Advent, the time of waiting with great expectation for the coming of Jesus Christ into the world. 2 Peter 3:8-15a puts it this way: “…in accordance with [God’s] promise, we wait for new heavens and a new earth, where righteousness is at home. Therefore, beloved, while you are waiting for these things, strive to be found by him at peace, without spot or blemish…”
The type of “waiting” described by the text above is not passive. Rather, Christians are to “strive” or struggle in their faith as a part of their expectation of God’s final redemptive act. We are to experience and witness to the rough and tumble reality by living in this world as a disciple of Jesus, and do that by the grace of God through the power of the Holy Spirit.
Enter Women’s Roller Derby (WRD).
Roller Derby is a contact sport that involves two teams skating in groups of five around the track while two other members (one from each team) try to break through the pack to score points. It originally started in the 1930s and has been experiencing resurgence in the past 11 years.
Since joining the Fresh Meat program (see #3 below) of the Charlottesville Derby Dames in October of this year, I’ve observed at least five characteristics of WRD that could help the Church teach its members how to strive and struggle while we grow in and live out our faith in expectation.
[Disclaimer: WRD is a sport with no link to any religious organizations and opinions in this piece do not reflect any official positions of WRD or the Charlottesville Derby Dames. Also, please note: there are some churches that do the stuff I talk about, so all generalizations do not necessarily apply to specific congregations.]
Drum roll please…
“Top 5 Things The Church Can Learn From Women’s Roller Derby” by a Freshie Charlottesville Derby Dame.
5. Women Are Powerful and Successful, As Women
To be a member of WRD, you have to be strong, athletic, and basically hard-core. Additionally, there is within Derby this amazing grace which allows each woman to express herself through “Derby Dress” or “boutfits” and an individual persona. Generally this means 1) sexy clothes — short skirts/shorts, tights, funky socks, decorated helmets and other flare and 2) cool punny names. Thus generating a bunch of super-hot and sexy, totally cute and foxy, hard-core professional athletes. Your look and persona are not seen as limiting your strength, but rather are considered part of the whole package. Like Roller Derby, the Church should help women understand their inner God-given beauty, and to express it in healthy ways. Check out this video of a pastor who found this through Roller Derby, not the Church.
4. A Competition Focused on Improving Self, Not Bringing Down Others
One strong message I get from WRD is “Compete against yourself!” There is an emphasis on pushing ourselves to improve AND encouraging others to do the same. In this way our improvement is everyone’s gain, and not an occasion to feel superior or inferior to those around us. This type of ethos that encourages me to improve myself, so I am better than I was yesterday is a model the Church could learn from as the expectant Church.
3. Shepherding the Fresh Meat
The Fresh Meat program trains all new skaters looking to become members of the team. It is led by Level II skaters and supported by “shepherds,” or Level I skaters. All skaters (including skaters with no previous experience) are welcome, and then trained and tested to pass from one level to the next. The Church should refocus on shepherding or discipleship, and WRD has much to teach the Church on this front.
2. Family Friendly
The reality is that many participants in WRD are in their late 20s to middle age; many of us have families, which include children. Therefore it is mandatory that all public bouts and derby events are family friendly. This does not cut down on the sass factor, but it means that if you go to a derby event, you are in for some good, clean, sexy (but not trashy) fun for the whole family. By taking care to modify certain behaviors and broadcasting to the world that families are welcome, children become spectators of a sport that speaks to them as a part of the team. The Church could benefit from learning how to become BOTH family friendly AND fun, and from how to incorporate children in a way that makes them feel like part of the team of disciples and not just a group whose behavior needs to be managed.
1. Role Models For Girls and Young Women
For the #1 Thing the Church Can Learn from Women’s Roller Derby, I share why I decided to join in the first place — my daughter. My daughter is 3 and beautiful. I’ve resigned myself to the fact that she will be a cheerleader someday (my husband has not). At the first Roller Derby bout we went to as a family, my 3-year-old daughter ran out after the match, found the tallest woman on skates she could find and had Rox Ann Stones sign her program — in crayon.
At that moment I made my decision.
In a world where girls and young women are bombarded by the media’s portrayal of the perfect body — where eating disorders, depression, and low self-esteem characterize young women’s lives — there also exists Women’s Roller Derby.
Whether or not my daughter remains my biggest fan, her little brain is being imprinted with the fact that women of all shapes, sizes and body types are beautiful, strong and can kick serious pompis (Spanish word for “rear end”). If only the Church could learn to do the same.
There really is so much more to say (in fact this list began as a Top Ten), and I am grateful that God finds a way to make these things happen somewhere. WRD is a sanctuary where hundreds, perhaps even thousands, of women develop and celebrate their confidence, strength and individuality.
Yet there is always hope for the Church to strive in its expectation, and as shown, WRD offers models from which to learn.
So, my Christian sisters and brothers, let us revive the struggle. Let us humbly learn what we can, so we can “be found by [God] at peace, without spot or blemish.” This fabulous sport can be our guide as we strive this Advent season, expectantly awaiting the New Born King.
Posted originally on Huffington Post Religion
Thanks to Rebecca Levi for permission to use her drawing “Derby” for this post.
And 6. LGBTQ affirming!
Hi James,
Yes! A good friend of mine on Facebook said the exact same thing.
Thanks for adding it.
Peace,
Kelly
Love this, Kelly–thank you!
You already know I love this post. What I pull from it upon reading again is your (I think radical) redefinition of “family-friendliness”– a term which in our broader culture is often associated with sanitized media in general and with sexism, homophobia, and the worst (and often, unfortunately, justified) stereotypes about religion. You’ve 1.) redefined “family friendly” such that it can be fun and include positive messages about bodies and sexuality, 2.) noted that whatever “family-friendly” really is, the Church tends not to live up to it, and 3.) called for the Church to claim the more open definition of “family friendly” (a definition that I think is mainly associated with parts of society that are explicitly non-religious) in specifically religious terms. Well done!
The following is a response I received to “5 Things the Church Can Learn from Women’s Roller Derby”:
“I’m a Christian and I’m involved in derby. There are days when I’ve felt more accepted, more loved and among friends at a derby bout than at church. I can’t admit that to many people, because I don’t want them to get that message. But it’s really true. I’ve been hurt by ‘the church’ and those in the church many times. While I believe in the Bible as the inspired word of God, and I believe and support things in it that many of my non believing friends might ‘unfriend’ me if they knew…I’ve found a unique and beautifully accepting community in roller derby. I’ve appreciated tattoos and wild hair and makeup, I have friends who wear fishnets and booty shorts, and so many of them drink and swear like sailors. And yet, they love fiercely, loyally. They have a communication, a teamwork, a camaraderie…they don’t judge based on color or sex or preference, and they wave nod and smile as I walk in the door! Hugs and greetings, and the occasional smack on the butt… I feel welcomed! They back each other, and pick each other up, both on and off the track. I know it’s not perfect. I know they can get catty; do hear the gossip, and I see divisions. I know it’s not perfect. But they are willing to try and learn and grow. They accept where some in the church haven’t yet learned how to, sometimes, including me. God is faithful, and he works through these women who worship in a different way. They seek, and they hope to find what fills them in derby. I know it is fulfilling, but I hope they truly find what it is they are looking for, their ultimate search. Meanwhile, I snap pictures of their journey, as I journey myself, inspired and so grateful and appreciative of this beautiful sport.”
I am grateful to the author for allowing me to post it with permission.